Friday, January 29, 2010

Abandoned in abundance

Abandoned in abundance



All of us abandon something dear to us in life – willingly or unwillingly.

From habits to children to spouses. There is a lot to abandon – both literally and virtually. While habits do not complain being left behind. It’s the human – the children or spouses – who feel the heat.

In a mad, mad ego race, couples leave each other. Get separated. Get divorced. Get remarried. But do they really forget each other? Does the new partner really strike that chord which first one did?

These questions are difficult – almost impossible to answer. Everyone involved in a broken relation faces the heat, but it’s the children that wilt. Elders have already lived their lives, but its the young buds that are nipped even before they hear of blossoming.

People say separating couples ape west. It’s not aping west. Its simply not agreeing to remember the lovable days spent together. It’s a mind block. It’s a decision to not to look beyond ones fallacies. Its the hollow egos that makes one leave most loved ones, most cherished ones. Its matter of fragile personas and weak decision makers.

And the one who is abandoned is at receiving end. Children suffering for no fault of theirs. Young minds left confused. Bereaved of love for parents. It’s a tussle between parents to have children by their side - by hook or crook.

Mitch Albom rightly points out somewhere in his For One More Day

“May a child never has to chose between father and mother”

Though surrounded by consoling and mocking relatives, children stand all alone in the milieu of this maddening crowd.

2 comments:

harcharan bains said...

Come back now. Bahut ho gya. You shouldn't keep fragrance under house arrest for this long.

Meanwhile, here is what i wrote today on my blog sunnymindcaves.blogspot.com


FLOODING THE SKY

(ONCE MORE PRAYING SPONTANEOUSLY -- IN HINDI)

TU RAAT BHI, KIRAN BHI, SEHAR BHI, DOPEHAR BHI,
ANJAANI DAGAR OR ATKHELIAN KARTI LEHAR BHI;

DIYA BHI MANZIL BHI TU , SIYAAH RAH GUZAR BHI TU,
MANZILE MAQSOOD BHI, ANJAAN SI DAGAR BHI TU.

NOOR BHI, UMANG BHI, CHANDA BHI OR CHAKOR BHI;
PIAYAR KI KHAMOSH RAHEIN, VALVALON KA SHOR BHI.

JAAGTA SA KHWAB DIN KA, HAQEEQATON KA AKS BHI ,
MAUT KA GEHAN SANNATA, ZINDAGI KA RAKS BHI.

SOYA SAQOON, JAAGI TARAP OR PHARFRAATA PANKH TU,
GHAR KI IK KHAMOSH VEENA, MANDIRON KA SANKH TU;

SHAM DHALE TO SO JAANA TU, LE SAPNON KI ORHNI,
RAAT KHUD LAYEGI SAPNE BAN CHANDA OR CHAKORNI;

BREHMAND MAIN HAI GOONJ TERE RAAG MERE PIYAAR KI,
CHAR SOO BAAHEIN PHELAATI MEHAK TERE GULZAAR KI.

SHAM KA DHALNA SUNHERI LAALI AMBAR PAAR KI,
TU HI BAADAL, TU HI BIJLI, BAARISH TU HI MALHAR BHI.

BRHAM BHI, BRAHMAND BHI, KAILASH VARINDAVAN BHI TU,
JISM KA YE SHOR PAAGAL, PRASHANT GEHRA MANN BHI TU.

YE BHI TU OR WOH BHI TU,OR MAIN BHI TU OR TU BHI TU ,
GHAR BHI, JANGAL, JHEEL JHARNA TU HI TU BUS TU HI TU.

KIS KI YE TALAASH AANKHEIN RAAT DIN PHIR KAR RAHIN?
MANN YAHIN, DUNIYAAN YAHIN, SEHRA YAHIN JAB GHAR YAHIN;

NAAD SA UTHE HAI MANN MEIN JAOON MEIN JIS BHI TARAF,
IS TARF TERA TARRANAM, NRITYA TERA USS TARF.

KHO CHUKKA HOON HOSH APNI, HOSH MAIN AAYOON BHI KIYOON?
MANN TERA AANANT AMBAR, OR KAHIN JAAYOON BHI KIYOON?

IK DABI MUSKAAN SE JO NAAM MERA BOLE DE,
HAR TARF ANAND HE ANAND KE DAR KHOL DE.
Posted by harcharan bains at 11:53 PM 0 comments

♥ Manav Ghuman ♥ said...

Dear I completely agree with u....While parents decide about their lives but they tend to forget about their kids......Lonely childhood......children are lost in the maddening world.....